Drop the Cell Phone Now!
“The two words ‘information’ and ‘communication’ are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things. Information is giving out; communication is getting through.”– Sydney J. Harris
When I was a kid, my phone was on the wall. Nowadays your phone is in your pocket, ready to be used to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere. So you are communicating, but are you doing it thoroughly.
What has been the result of the rapid growth of smartphones? When cell phones were not here, you talked to people more frequently in past years. And when you spoke to someone in-person, you picked up more communication because you know body language, including facial expressions, is a significant contributor to communication.
Think back, if you are old enough, to a time when cell phones were not here. Where did you communicate the best? On the wall telephone or in-person.
For me, in-person communication wins every time.
Below are some of the advantages of in-person communication, including your public speaking.
Reading the Other Person’s Mood
You have experienced this as a public speaker. As a public speaker, your ability to discern the mood of your audience is key to your success with that audience.
This is key because if you find your audience waning in interest in how you are presenting your material, you can quickly change how you are presenting the material if you have thought of different ways to present it beforehand.
You and I are emotional beings. We are a bundle of emotions. Your audience’s current emotional mood will determine whether they listen to you and apply what you are saying or dismiss the information in your presentation.
Many public speakers have delivered unsuccessful presentations because they have not adequately gauged their audience’s mood.
As a public speaker, you should become a student of people. There are several good books available on how to read people. Pick up a couple of them, read them, and then implement what they say. Then, as a speaker and a conversationalist, you won’t regret it.
So, reading your audience’s mood is fundamental to you delivering a successful presentation.
Speaking to someone or an audience in person is just more enjoyable.
In-Person Experience More Enjoyable
You will find the in-person experience much more enjoyable than talking to someone on the phone or even online, where you can see their video.
Delivering a presentation virtually is like watching a basketball game on TV. You can get more chips, put the TV on mute to talk to your companion, or change the channel.
When you are at a live sporting event, it commands more of your attention—no more chips or muting the event. You may be able to talk to your companion at the live event, but you will have to talk over a cheering crowd.
Why do you find in-person communication more enjoyable? I believe this is so because the other person or audience’s aura draws you into the conversation.
Your audience’s or other person’s aura influences how you feel about them.
You gravitate to the people and audiences you like, and your audience’s aura has a lot to do with liking people.
Speaking 101 tells us to reach an audience, you must understand them. There is no better opportunity to understand your audience than to present to them in person.
Able to Help the Other Person Better
Speaking to people in person allows us to know the person better. You will determine their likes, dislikes, and what excites them. As a speaker, you can use this to your advantage by steering your presentation toward what they like and what excites them.
When you understand the other person’s likes, dislikes, and what excites them, you can help them more fully overcome their current challenges. Isn’t that why your audience has come to hear you speak? Understanding is key. As a public speaker, you must know your audience to appeal to them.
Isn’t that why you are speaking. You want to take your audience on a journey from where they are to a better place. If you do this consistently, you will never want speaking opportunities. Word of mouth will ensure this.
There is an emotional bonding between you and your audience that cannot be obtained by delivering your presentation virtually. Use this emotional bonding for the good of your audience. Remember, it is always about them – not about you.
Your speaking life and personal life will be more fulfilling if you speak more in-person than through an electronic device.
The advantages to you and your audience of doing this are: your ability to read your audience’s mood, the in-person experience is so much more enjoyable, and you will be in a much better position to help your audience.
DROP THE CELL PHONE NOW!
Call to Action
Read your audience’s mood and react accordingly in your future presentations
Enjoy yourself interacting in person with your audience
Remember, helping your audience is your number one goal in delivering your presentations.
“Electric communication will never be a substitute for the face of someone who with their soul encourages another person to be brave and true.”– Charles Dickens
Frank DiBartolomeo is a retired U.S. Air Force Lieutenant Colonel and award-winning speaker, presentation and interview skills coach, and Professional Member of the National Speakers Association. He was awarded Toastmasters International’s highest individual award, Distinguished Toastmaster because of his outstanding work in public speaking and leadership.
Frank formed DiBartolomeo Consulting International (DCI), LLC (www.speakleadandsucceed.com) in 2007. The mission of DCI is to help technical professionals to inspire, motivate, and influence their colleagues and other technical professionals through improving their presentation skills, communication, and personal presence. Reach Frank at firstname.lastname@example.org and (703) 509-4424.
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“Speak Well and Prosper: Tips, Tools, and Techniques for Better Presentations”